Being grateful for what isn’t is a simple mindfulness exercise I created to cultivate gratitude even in the shittiest situations. Sometimes it feels absolutely impossible to be grateful and that’s okay! I totally get it. That’s why, during those instances I choose to be grateful for what isn’t. Here is why it is important to be grateful for what isn’t:

• How we focus our attention and how we intentionally direct the flow of energy and information through our neural circuits can directly alter the brain’s activity and its structure.
• Even fleeting thoughts and feelings can leave lasting marks on your brain. Think of wax dripping down the side of a candle, each drip follows the path of the last one making the trails thicker and longer.
• Each thought makes an impact, shift the flow of energy and emotion to create new pathways. If you’re continuing to feed into the negative you’re deepening those trails. If you’re shifting the thought process you’re working on building new pathways, new trails, new thought patterns.
• We are building mindfulness by noticing the negative narration in our heads. We are giving ourselves the power to try to change the voiceover every single day.
• Each time you decide to be Grateful For What Isn’t, you are shifting your brain’s ability to see situations as neutral or positive instead of negative.
• Without going into too much neuroscience, neurons that fire together, wire together. Meaning by increasing the excitability of active neurons, you are strengthening existing synapses (connections) and building new ones while also weakening past neural networks that don’t serve you, i.e. constantly looking for negative outcomes. (Buy this book if you want to know more) – or shoot me an email and I’ll chat with you about the neuroscience I’m referencing for the basis of these exercises.

You probably get the hang of it, but here’s how to be grateful for what isn’t: You find yourself in a crappy situation.You can’t find anything to be grateful for so you decide to be grateful for what isn’t.

Example: Your flight is delayed by ten hours. Here are a list of grateful for what isn’t possibilities:

• I am grateful I’m not traveling with kids.
• I am grateful I don’t have health aliments to complicate things.
• I am grateful I don’t have to catch another connecting flight at my next stop.
• I am grateful my plane is delayed to be repaired instead of flying in disrepair.

If you’d like to take a listen, here’s a link to the meditation ‘Grateful for what isn’t. By adopting this mental exercise, we’ll begin to transform our mind. We’ll shift from seeing things as negative to neutral. We’ll flex those brain muscles intentionally until one day they take the initiative and start flexin’ for good on their own.