Friendraising – Start a Cookbook Club

Since the start of the year, we’ve been focusing on monthly initiatives. A theme that sets the stage for some of the posts we’ll be sharing throughout the month. In January, we focused on good habits. During February we kept those good habits going with a particular focus on taking care of our mental health. This month, we mentioned in the Monthly Welcome that we want to put the focus on relationships, and in particular, to something called “friendraising” like fundraising, but with friends, ya dig it?

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A Little Intro

The communities we love to insert ourselves into are usually built around shared interests: cooking, hiking, parents, etc. Normally we find out about these groups through friends, community calendars, our city’s free weekly paper, or the internet, and sometimes we start our own groups.

Sarah began this series by discussing how and why to start a meetup group, and I followed up with a discussion about starting a Facebook group. While those ideas may sound like on in the same, they actually served different purposes. Sarah’s group was used to primarily promote events that she was hosting, while my group was a forum for sharing events hosted by other area groups… and in those posts we explain why one forum may be better than the other for certain purposes.

Today I’m talking about a special kind of book club : a cookbook club! I’ve taken part in a cookbook club for a few years now, and it’s been a really great experience. Here’s what we do…

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What’s a Cookbook Club?

A cookbook club is a potluck gathering where everyone attending prepares recipes from the same cookbook.

Our group meets approximately every two months. We rotate hosting duties. The host gets to pick the book and provides drinks. Sometimes the drinks compliment the book’s cuisine, other times it’s just wine and sparkling water.

Our group has a no-kids policy (little babies are obviously allowed). This makes for a more relaxing potluck, where you can enjoy the food and have a bit of conversation. About once/year there’s been a family-friendly event, but in general, it’s adults only.

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Why Start a Cookbook Club?

This article was the inspiration for our club, and really I couldn’t sum it up any better than that. Cookbook clubs bring a group of friends to share a delicious meal. From one potluck to the next, you get to go on whichever culinary adventure you want, from Thai to Italian to Middle Eastern to dishes from the American South. The potluck is the celebration of this communal experience.

Our potlucks start by everyone introducing themselves and the dish they brought. If you’re not careful, these introductions can drag out as guests go off on funny or painful tangents about what it took to put their dish together. Oftentimes, it’s no trouble at all, but other times there can be the adventure of finding the right ingredients or the tale of how a dish had to be made and re-made to get it just right.

After introductions, plates are passed, food is served, and everyone relaxes into conversation and a good meal. And really, every time, the meals are delicious!

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What Hosting Entails

If you’re thinking about starting a cookbook club, it’s likely that you’ll also offer to be the first to host. Pick a time, date, and book.

Send out invites to your friends, and encourage them to invite others that may be interested. We’ve found 8-12 guests to be a great number, but you may have to work up to that as you slowly get the word out, don’t be deterred.

On the day of, there’s the usual straightening up of the house. Then do a few things to prepare for hosting a potluck. Prepare your table for the food, including trivets for hot dishes. Put out a pile of plates,silverware, napkins, and extra serving utensils. Prepare a drink station with the beverages, ice, and glasses. Put out hotpads and make your oven and stove available for any guests that may have to keep a dish warm. Make it easy for guests to help themselves so that you can focus on welcoming everyone and taking care of any last minute details.

As the guests arrive, start serving drinks. Once all of the dishes are on the table, start the introductions. Start with a short welcome, introduce yourself and your dish, and then go around the table having each guest do the same.

After introductions, let the guests help themselves to the food.

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Planning Subsequent Events

When the group I’m in started, it was small enough that all communication could be done by email. But after a while, that got a bit cumbersome, especially if a conversation got started and you were 20 emails behind. Eventually we moved to Google Groups, but for one reason or another, that was also hard for some members to navigate. Now we use a private Facebook group for communication.

Facebook works well for our purposes. We can use the poll option to pick dates, and sometimes hosts have used polls to help decide which cookbook to use. Once you have a date, it’s easy to create an “event” within the group where you can put pertinent details for that particular potluck.

To keep track of who is bringing which dish from the book, we use a Google spreadsheet, and keep it “pinned” to the top of the Facebook group’s feed. In that document, we have a different sheet for each potluck. Anyone attending includes their name, the dish they plan on making, and what category of food it is (main, side, dessert, vegetarian, etc.). This helps the host with knowing how many people to expect, and makes it easy for all guests to help round-out the variety of dishes. We’ve never had a problem with having an unbalanced meal; usually there’s a nice ratio of mains to sides plus a few desserts.

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Cookbook Suggestions

Sometimes the hardest aspect of this club is picking out the next book! I like to follow a few food-related blogs in an effort to keep on top of what’s coming out when looking for new releases.

When picking a book, be aware that not everyone in the club may want to buy it. It’s nice if the book is available in your local library or if enough members have the book so that you can pass it around before the event. Another thing we sometimes do is pick a book by a food writer who also has a blog, then allow people in the group to choose recipes from the book or the blog.

Below are a few suggestions for books, and I include a note when the author also has a blog. If you have any books that you would add to our list, please let me know!

*The photos throughout this post came from my Farm Share series, where you can find loads of meal inspiration!

Color Your Memories with Positivity

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You are what you eat, which is why you would pick up a firm, crisp apple, but a bruised, rotted one, no way. Translate that to thought. Why do we continue to consume negative, fearful, anxious thoughts, when positive, uplifting, and gracious ones also exist?

It’s not entirely your fault. Our brains have a natural bias to shade our implicit memories in a negative light even though for the most part our experiences are actually positive. You can think of implicit memories like the residue of past experiences. Implicit memories remain primarily below the surface of awareness yet they shape the inner atmosphere of the mind. Our brain is actually trying to protect us by constantly scanning, registering, storing, recalling, and reacting to unpleasantness, but because of this we unknowingly internalize those memories instead of the positive, carefree, and overall safe experiences that we also have each day.

How do you color your memories with positivity? Your brain is acting as it always has, therefore to interrupt its daily exercise, you need to be mindful of internalizing positive explicit memories, memories that are entirely conscious recollections of specific events. These are the memories you have a bit of control over. To actively shape the brain, you need to solidify these positive experiences, by seeking them out, savoring them, and allowing them to sink in.

Look for the good news that surrounds you, find the joy in each moment, allow yourself to see the bright side of a dark day. We sometimes struggle with this physical exercise, so allow yourself to acknowledge how tough it may be to find the positive. It’s okay if it’s a struggle but persist. You are actively changing your neural structure. Pain today breeds more pain for tomorrow, the converse is also true.

Once you find the positive, focus on it for at least ten seconds. Allow it to sink in. Feel the residual sparks of happiness coursing through your physical body. Really allow yourself to feel content. Try to locate and identify that feeling and sensation in your body. The longer something is held in your awareness, the more emotionally stimulating it is, the more neurons will be firing, and the stronger the trace (implicit) memory will be. Focusing on this momentary contentment increases dopamine release, which encourages your mind to stay focused on this experience allowing for more positive neural associations in your implicit memories.

Now that you have a handle on internalizing positive experiences, you can use them to balance out your negative ones. When experiences are lumped together in your memory, they take with them whatever else is in awareness or on your mind, especially if dealing with intense emotion. This means you can actively infuse positive material with negative material in order to cultivate a neutral or positive implicit bias in your mind. Think about the comforting feeling of being nurtured by a friend when you’re experiencing profound loss. You friend isn’t taking away the pain, but their soothing presence helps to balance out the grief you are experiencing. Now you will see how to use your positive memories to soothe your negative ones.

Basically, you want to intently focus on a positive experience while the painful experience is sensed dimly in the background. When negative material rises, bring to mind emotions and perspectives that work as its antidote. Whenever you have a positive experience, allow it to sink in, soothe, and replace old pains.

Maybe you had a really fantastic dinner with your parents. Allow yourself to be fully immersed in the experience. Listen to the conversation, inhale deeply and smell the fresh flowers in the center of the table, close your eyes and really taste your meal, allow yourself to preserve the positive emotions you are feeling. After dinner, recall a negative memory of a family dinner, while still allowing yourself to feel the warmth, happiness, and contentment from the positive experience. Allow your positive memory to begin to flush out the negative memory.

When your brain recalls a memory, it draws on key features, not specific events, it fills in details with simulation, and it does it so quickly that you don’t even notice it. This rebuilding process is what gives you the opportunity to color your memories with positivity. When a memory is activated, a large-scale assembly of neurons and synapse unfold into a pattern. If other things are also being held in your mind, in this case, positive memories, your amygdala, and hippocampus (regulators of emotions and memory) will automatically associate them with the neural array and when you stop recalling the memory, it will be lumped in with those other associations, in this case, the positive family dinner.

Coloring memories with positivity takes time and effort. Repetition is required. Be mindful of the deep roots of reoccurring pain and upset within you. Try to identify the tip of these roots, maybe planted during childhood or a particular relationship or traumatic event. Deliberately propel your positive experiences towards these roots to displace them. Fill that space with positive emotion. Know that this exercise can also work in the opposite direction so if you find yourself dwelling on negative feelings, you may not be ready for this exercise.

Each time you work on taking in the good or positive, you flex your brain muscles. You build up a little bit of neural structure and encourage your brain to continue seeking out contentment. Coloring your memories with positivity a few times each day for months will turn into years, and will gradually change your mind and the way it operates, therefore affecting how you feel and act, in far reaching ways.

Taking in the good is good. You are building up positive emotions that will benefit your overall physical and mental health. The point is not to ignore painful experiences or grasp after positive ones but to internalize the good and work on accepting the difficult while comforting yourself with soothing thoughts and feelings. Not only will you shift the way your brain works, but you will also be a grounding and positive force for those around you. Anxious and overwhelmed people will seek refuge near you as you’ll be a source for comfort instead of added anxiety.

Cocoa Mint Lip Balm

If you’d like to see more of our DIY beauty potions, click here. You’ll find everything from deodorant to face oils and body scrubs to customized perfumes. Here you’ll find our recipe for a DIY floral lip balm.

Today I’m sharing the most scrumptious yet simple lip balm recipe.  The addition of comfrey and calendula-infused olive oils adds creates a super nourishing base. The blend of unrefined cocoa butter + peppermint essential oils produces an amazing scent.

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I’ve talked in greater details about essential oils in this post. This post reiterates many of the lip-balm making tips that are also discussed in our floral balm post.

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FriendRaising – Start a Facebook Group

Since the start of the year, we’ve been focusing on monthly initiatives. A theme that sets the stage for some of the posts we’ll be sharing throughout the month. In January, we focused on good habits. During February we kept those good habits going with a particular focus on taking care of our mental health. This month, we mentioned in the Monthly Welcome that we want to put the focus on relationships, and in particular, to something called “friendraising” like fundraising, but with friends, ya dig it?
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The communities we love to insert ourselves into are usually built around shared interests: cooking, hiking, parents, etc. Normally we find out about these groups through friends, community calendars, our city’s free weekly paper, or the internet, and sometimes we start our own groups.

Sarah started this series by discussing how and why to start a meetup group and do a little friendraising for yourself. Today’s post is very similar in nature. I want to talk about starting a Facebook group. BUT as you’ll see, my group is NOT about hosting events…

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Thai Breakfast Snapshots

Two years ago, I flew to Thailand and took three friends, my brother, and my dad with me! It was an excellent little adventure with a unique and diverse crew. Besides my family, everyone was meeting each other for the first time. Everyone meshed so well, and spirits were high throughout the trip.

We explored Bangkok for a few days and then participated in a five-day yoga retreat near the Gulf of Thailand. During the retreat, I enjoyed leisurely breakfasts after asana each morning. Perusing old drafts of blog posts today, I came across these images of all the breakfasts I ate during the retreat. This happened just as I was preoccupied wondering what I would eat for breakfast tomorrow, which usually isn’t a priority, but I’m donating blood tomorrow – eek! I’m nervous, so I’m going to get up early and eat and drink a fair amount. Hopefully, this will help calm my nerves and make me less likely to faint!

Below I share a week of Thailand breakfasts and then some ideas as to what I eat as a first meal here in the States. Notice I said first meal? Today I ate my first meal a.k.a. breakfast around 11:30 AM and then I didn’t eat again until 6:30 PM. This is pretty standard for me as a heavy lunch puts me right back into snooze mode.

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DIY Trick : Yarn Wrap

It’s been a while since we’ve done any sort of DIY craft post! We’re definitely making like crazy, so that’s no excuse. If anything, it means that we have a backlog of Make with Me posts to work on.

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Well, the DIY drought ends today. I recently learned a great way to wind yarn around an object and tie it off without any tricky knots or loose ends. This is so simple, and for some of you, this may already be a tool in your DIY toolbox, but I’m hoping that there are a few of you that will appreciate this new trick as much as I do.

Click on for our step-by-step guide and a short list of places where this technique may be useful.

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Moroccan Spiced Shepherd’s Pie

Ginger is our ingredient of the season. You can find our archive of ginger posts here and our previous featured ingredients here.

*This post was first published in September of 2017, but we’re republishing it today because it’s pie day!… technically we should be baking this in a circular pan. If you bake it in a rectangular pan for Pi Day, use it as a test and see if any of your guests call you on it. 🙂

I mentioned this dish in my recent farm share post, and with fall right around the corner, it’s a perfect time to add this to your repertoire.

This dish includes all of the best comforts of shepherd’s pie with added interest from the Moroccan spices and added simplicity from the sliced potatoes. The first time I made this we took it to a friend’s house and everyone around the table (from the 1 yo to the adults) loved it!

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We are big shepherd’s pie fans, but honestly, I never make it because I don’t want to mash the potatoes. But as soon as I saw this recipe, I was all in because the potatoes are sliced instead of mashed. The recipe is from Modern Israeli Cooking, with just a few slight variations…  I have a feeling you’re going to see us mentioning this book many times throughout the season!

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Good Stuff : Aromatherapy (for sleep)

In January we were sharing some of the good habits that we’ve picked up over the years, and in February we continued that trend with a special focus on self-care. This post definitely fits both themes.

Have you tried aromatherapy? Aromatherapy is the process of using plant parts or aromatic plant oils (think essential oils) to improve psychological or physical well-being.

linen_spray3bThere’s a growing body of evidence that some uses of aromatherapy have measurable success rates. In this post, we are particularly interested in using aromatherapy to improve sleep, and we’ll share a super simple potion with you below.

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FriendRaising – Start a Meet Up Group

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Since the start of the year, we’ve been focusing on monthly initiatives. A theme that sets the stage for some of the posts we’ll be sharing throughout the month. In January, we focused on good habits. During February we kept those good habits going with a particular focus on taking care of our mental health. This month, we mentioned in the Monthly Welcome that we want to put the focus on relationships, and in particular, to something called “friendraising” like fundraising, but with friends, ya dig it? Here’s how to start a meetup group and do a little friendraising for yourself. Continue reading

Welcome March

On the first Wednesday of each month, we like to pause and take a look at what’s going on in the world around us.  We’ll highlight some nature and environmental news, give you a bit of inspiration, and ask you to partake in a monthly sustainability initiative with us.

That old “in like a lion” proverb is really ringing true this year! It looks like most of the country was hit by that big winter storm and an arctic blast last weekend… so, what did we do in our house? Stayed inside and ate LAMB!

Please tell me you get how funny that is. In like a LION out like LAMB. {Sarah here: Dude, we get it. Alternately, ‘Mom! You’re embarrassing me!’}
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