50 Things To Accomplish Before The New Year

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Thanksgiving is already here – cue the freakout. Where did this year go?! What did I do? What can I possibly accomplish before the New Year? Each year goes by faster and faster and I wonder how old I’ll be when I finally stop saying that. I’m going on four years strong now, officially at the point in my life where I’m done wasting time and energy on people and activities I don’t enjoy. Bye bye loser boyfriends! Peace out mediocre jobs. See ya later annoying obligations. Eeek! 

This mindset has been working out really well! I’m finding myself more in control of my time and exceedingly more honest with myself and others in relationships. So, what can we get done with what’s left of this year? It turns out a lot. Here’s a quick list of 50 Things To Accomplish Before The New Year – and if we treated time so fleetingly during every other moon and month just imagine the sh!t we could do. Lots more books could be read, beer could be tasted, errr, I mean closets organized and meals prepared?!

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Phoneless Family Activities to Try Right Now

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Putting down your phone is hard sometimes, but why?! A decade ago, it wasn’t like this. We didn’t immediately forgive each other for looking down at our texts and outright ignoring whomever we were with, instead, we got pissy. We said, ‘Exxxxcuse me!’ or more likely our phones were in our purses or on the table or lost for a few hours. They weren’t an extension of ourselves and it felt better that way. Remember?

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40 Ways To Celebrate World Kindness Day

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World Kindness day is tomorrow, Tuesday, November 13. If you know me, kindness is my thing, first and foremost, kindness to self that way you can extend it to others. I have a shirt that I wear often that says ‘be cool, be kind’ and I really don’t think you can have one without the other. A few years ago, we gave out wristbands for our homegrown Schu Farm Fest camping and music weekend and they read ‘Do Good + Be Kind’ it was this simple message out of everything we brainstormed that struck a chord with each and every one of us on the SFF committee.

I hear a lot of grumbles when it comes to holidays of this nature. Holidays that encourage you to do something you really should be doing every day, but hey, I don’t think reminders hurt. I also think the grumblers need a snack and someone to be nice to them..

Here are 40 Super Simple Ways to Celebrate World Kindness Day

Kindness to self

  1. Talk kindly to yourself.
  2. Exercise or take a walk in nature.
  3. Feed yourself a healthy meal.
  4. Take twenty minutes to read about something you enjoy.
  5. Identify your needs and how to meet them.
  6. Write in a journal – even if it’s jotting down a list of random words and feelings.
  7. Write a love letter to yourself. Read it aloud in the mirror each day for a week. (This is extremely powerful and yes, it feels awkward AF)
  8. Change your bedsheets and wash all your blankets.
  9. Pet an animal.
  10. Get a good nights rest.

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The Best Scary Movies on Netflix Right Now

Happy Halloweeeeen! It’s time to get spooookey. Here are a few creepy movies you should watch this week! They’re all on Netflix and I’m only listing ones I watched and liked. I’m pretty critical, but I do give horror movies a little leeway. That being said, I would absolutely watch all these again, not something I say often. This is a short list because I don’t believe it wasting time watching TV, which means this list is solid. Go ahead and challenge me on that. I’m linking each movie title to its preview in case you want a sneak peak.

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Current Podcasts

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Remember when my New Years resolution was to encourage friends to listen to podcasts? That was three *years* ago and I’m still deep in my quest. I’m constantly suggesting podcasts and even offering to download them directly on people’s phones. I’m pretty annoying. I don’t care.

Podcasts have changed my days for the better and expanded my thinking, storytelling, and overall knowledge base in ways that are incomprehensible. I feel like I’ve lived a thousand lives all while driving, cooking, and getting other tasks completed. Podcasts really elevate my existence and that’s probably an understatement. Podcasts keep me awake and entertained while driving. Podcasts make international flights less daunting. Podcasts offer me understanding, empathy, and compassion for others. I love podcasts, okay? Got it? Got it.

What is a Podcast?

What is a podcast? It’s simply a digital file that you can download on the internet, usually part of a series, and once you subscribe to a podcast it will automatically download to your computer or device each time a new one is released.  Think of a podcast as a radio show that gets saved to your iTunes or whichever program you use to listen to music.

How do I download them? If you don’t know how to download or subscribe to podcasts, there are a million and one tutorials out there and I’m sure they do a better job of explaining it than I can. Basically, you can download individual podcasts or you can subscribe to a podcast, which means your computer or phone will automatically download the newest episodes as they come out.  I always subscribe to my favorite podcasts and I even search the archives to individually download episodes I may have missed that look interesting.

Where do I find them?  Well, you can search for them on the web, you can click the links provided below, or you can search for them in your music listening application.  I search for podcasts in iTunes, but sometimes I look for new-to-me podcasts on google so I can use a wide variety of search terms to find something I haven’t heard of before.  Then I search the name of the podcast in iTunes and subscribe to it.

Current Favorite Podcasts:

If you’re a close friend of mine, you probably think I exclusively listen to true crime and murder podcasts: NOT TRUE! I listen to a bunch of shit, here are my current favorites:

Serial is ahhhhmazing! The newest season follows a courthouse in Cleveland week by week, telling stories from the points of view of police, prosecutors, judges, victims, and defendants. It can be hard to listen to at times especially if you’ve uncomfortable or unfair experiences with the law.

The Big Ones answers life BIG questions. Not really, but each episode asks a few moral conundrums and ethical decisions and the hosts, two giggly girls, Maria and Amanda, invite a guest to talk it all out with them.  One of the first episodes I heard dealt with circumcision. I was fascinated with the realization that most of us make ethical decisions with such a limited amount of information. Would you harm a baby? No? Then STOP circumcising – I had this opinion years before the podcast ;).

Dirty John details a seriously shitty human being and his willingness to trick, cheat, and treat women horribly. This series of seven episodes is gripping, buckle up.

How I Built This with Guy Raz a newer favorite of mine. It’s a collection of long-form interviews with successful business owners and entrepreneurs. My recent favorites are Patagonia’s Yvon ChouinardBen & Jerry’s, and Burton’s Jake Carpenter.

Terrible Thanks for Asking is hosted by Nora McInerny. It’s a terribly hard podcast to listen to without crying, but that’s why I love it. Terrible Thanks for Asking cultivates empathy while depicting the unfortunate and awful heartbreaks we experience in this life. If you’re struggling with illness, fertility issues, immigration, suicide, gun violence, etc, you will find an episode that discusses it honestly.

More Perfect is a spinoff of Radiolab and it’s SO GOOD. It’s a podcast about the Supreme Court, but I promise it isn’t as boring as it sounds. It’s actually freaking fascinating, which is why I was hooked from episode one. The Supreme Court decisions shape everything from money to marriage to sex to public safety. More Perfect tells the stories of how these important rulings came to be.

Spermcast is hosted by actor, writer, and comedian Molly Hawkey. I didn’t know who she was before listening and I’m not dealing with fertility or needing a sperm donor, but someone suggested this podcast to me and I’ve been hooked ever since. Molly is unblushingly honest and I love listening to her journey and learning a bunch about sperm vitality and fertility along the way – the more ya know, right?

Young House Love is mostly about interior design and home renovations. I love listening YHL mostly because I’ve followed this married couple for over five years. They’re always giggling and cracking cheesy jokes and they genuinely bring me joy.

99% Invisible  details the invisible or unnoticed things that shape our world. I learn so much from this podcast and it helps me develop a better understanding about larger complex systems from focusing on a single subject – listen to my recent favorite about the true cost of Blue Jeans.

Bad With Money – Just a real lady talking about her poor education when it comes to money. Growing up middle class in a pretty impoverished town (my town filed for bankruptcy a few years ago and we were also featured in this Tosh.O skit..) I’ve had to learn everything I know about money and finances from books, podcasts, and the interwebz. I used to envy friends that came from families that are well-versed in investments, savings accounts, and IRAs, but I’m making a concerted effort to make friends with money instead of lumping it in with bad feelings and stress.

Of course, I’m always listening to Radio Lab, Joe Rogan, and This American Life. See my other subscriptions at the bottom of this post.

The Murder Stuff:

I won’t give descriptions for each because that could be a bit of a spoiler, but I have them listed in order of preference.

  • My Favorite Murder
  • Small Town Murder
  • Atlanta Monster
  • Criminal

Cold Case Files

  • One Season – binge worthy:
  • The Teacher’s Pet
  • Southern Nightmare
  • Dr. Death
  • Someone Knows Something  (season 1)

 

The Master List of Podcasts:

Below is a master list of podcasts I have loved in the past – some are still on the top of my list while others have faded from interest.

NPR favorites:

Ask Me Another – NPR & WNYC’s weekend game show featuring word games, puzzles and trivia played by a live audience.  It’s an upbeat hour where you can quiz yourself on current events, grammar and other brain busting subjects. I play this podcast whenever I’m feeling a little irritated in the car. Case of road rage? Construction zone continuing on for miles? Play Ask Me Another.

Fresh Air – is considered a talk show, but to me it is a series of intimate conversations with artistscreatives and innovators in today’s society.  I usually pick and choose which episodes to listen to depending on the guest, but even if I’m not familiar with the subject, each episode inspires or intrigues me in some way.

How To Do Everything – answers readers’ (pretty absurd) questions each week.  The co-hosts, Mike Danforth & Ian Chillag, are super silly and laid back, which makes listening to these podcasts a real treat.  You never really know what you’re in for when you play How To Do Everything and that’s half the reason it’s so interesting.

Invisibilia – is in its infancy with only one season completed, but each episode is so.stinkin.good. I listened to each episode twice, picking up on things I missed the first time around.  Invisibilia focuses on the intangible forces that shape human behavior like ideas, beliefs, assumptions and emotions.  If you’re interested in psychology and the brain, Invisibilia is a must.

Serial – actually brought a lot of attention towards podcasts in general.  It’s crazy how one show can completely take off and shine a light on a whole world that a lot of folks were overlooking. Serial investigates a murder trial that took place over a decade ago and looks for more clues into what really happened.  Serial is a spinoff of This American Life, which means the producers and staff of the show know what they’re doing. Serial will keep you on the edge of your seat.  I listened to the series as it was debuting in early 2015. I was biting my nails each week until the newest episode was released.

Snap Judgment –  is storytelling with a beat.  Host and producer, Glynn Washington, is absolutely captivating.  Each week has a different theme and stories that go along with it.  Snap Judgment is a deep (and sometimes difficult) conversation about race, politics, social responsibility, activism, family life, human rights, etc.  You should probably dive right in.

This American Life – was actually the first podcast I ever downloaded.  I’ve been listening to This American Life for over a decade now.   In the past, I was a bummed when I would miss an episode on the radio, but podcasts have eliminated that issue.  Just like the name suggests, each week This American Life features a variety of stories about Americans that pertain to a certain theme.

Educational 

Freakonomics Radio – I learn so much (and soon forget it) during each and every one of these episodes.  Freakonomics is about the hidden side of everything, basically how economics plays a role in our every day life.  It’s co-hosted by Stephen Dubner, an author and journalist, and Steven Levitt, an award-winning economist.  Together they make economics accessible for half-witted listeners like myself.  I still have yet to buy their books, but they’re on my list. Just listening to these two joke, laugh and teach together makes the podcast worth listening to.

Stuff You Should Know – kind of has the same feeling as How To Do Everything.  The co-hosts are smart and hilarious and you never know what topic they’ll be covering next.

TEDTalks Business – there are thousands of TED talks out there, but my favorites are usually in the business section.  I’m usually left with an inspiring thought or feeling that keeps me wanting to push forward instead of crying under a stack of unfinished photography estimates.

The Memory Palace – is a quick snippet of history that you’ve probably never heard of.  These podcasts are extremely short by comparison, but each one is extremely powerful.  The Memory Palace gets you to contemplate the past whether through events or individuals and leaves you feeling moved by the memory you’ve just learned about.

Storytelling and Conversational & Possibly Educational

Love + Radio is described as, “featuring in-depth, otherworldly-produced interviews with an eclectic range of subjects, from the seedy to the sublime. You’ve never heard anything like it before.” I couldn’t agree more (or write a better synopsis), Love + Radio is captivating and raw, you should give it a listen.

Radiolab – explores topics with the curiosity of a (really well educated) child.  Radiolab explores topics with a type of fluidity that blurs the lines between science, philosophy, and human experience.  I recently listened to this episode about the birth of Candid Camera and it had me thinking a lot about reality television and our fascination (or disgust) with fame.

The Joe Rogan Experience – is another pretty raunchy podcast, but if you like his comedy, you’ll probably dig his podcast.  I usually pick and choose which episodes to listen to depending on the guests.  The Joe Rogan Experience is a great way to pass a few hours because he addresses a lot of serious topics in a not so serious (and sometimes not so well-researched) way, so you can form your own opinions while laughing along with Joe and his guest.

Savage Lovecast – is a Q&A podcast hosted by Dan Savage.  It’s kind of like Dear Ann for a younger (sexier) generation.  If you’re listening at work or in public, you definitely need headphones.  I really enjoy this podcast because there is a lot I’m completely clueless about when it comes to discussing gay rights, religiosity, and politics pertaining to sexuality.  In a way, this podcast exposes me to different types of relationships that I may not have firsthand experience with and in turn creates understanding and empathy for individuals in those relationships.

Mysterious Universe – is a little bit of a guilty pleasure for me.  I treat it like listening to stories around a campfire, unsure if it’s fact, but not caring just the same.  Mysterious Universe explores the strange, extraordinary, weird, and wonderful happenings on earth (and in space).  It can be spooky, unsettling, and inspiring.  

Hilarious + Silly – Definitely Not Serious

Your Mom’s House – is a completely filthy and dirty podcast hosted by husband and wife comedians Tom Segura and Christina Pazsitzky.  This podcast definitely is not for everyone.  If you identify with a ninth grade boy it’s probably for you though.  I would suggest watching Completely Normal (it’s on Netflix) and if you dig it download Your Mom’s House.

That’s Deep Bro – is produced and hosted by Christina Pazsitzky from Your Mom’s House. The podcast explores serious questions hashed out by silly people.  Christina P. is a comedian, but she has a degree in philosophy so she discusses age old questions and other philosophical topics for your pontificating pleasure. This podcast is her side project, but it has really blossomed over the past year.

The Mortified Podcast – is THE BEST PODCAST NO MATTER THE MOOD. Sorry, I had to make sure this podcast didn’t get overlooked.  The Mortified Podcast will have you choking on your water, slapping the steering wheel, and crying on the highway because it’s that funny.  It’s a podcast where people read their teenage diaries in front of a live audience. There’s no need to say anything more, except maybe download all the past episodes you missed, because this podcast is an absolute MUST.

Kids’ Nature Books

We know, we know, it’s amazon prime day. If you’re in the shopping mood, below are a few of our favorite nature books for kids.

We feel that it’s very important to have an understanding of and appreciation for the natural world, and we believe that both of those things should start as early as possible in a child’s life.

One of the easiest ways to help children learn about nature is to spend time outdoors. Most children are naturally curious, and as they play and explore in nature, they will begin to ask questions about plants and animals, the habitats and ecosystems where they live, and the larger world around them. This is a great time to begin answering those questions and to work together to research the answers when they are unknown to either of you.

And that leads to our second way to help children learn about the natural world and our relationship with it : books!

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Books are obviously a great resource for teaching children. They are a reference when helping to answer a child’s questions, and they can provide insights into places and times that we’ve never been, which is awesome for awakening a child’s imagination. Of course, that will likely raise more questions, and the cycle continues!

Below are a few of our current favorite nature books for kids. Some of these are straight-up reference guides, while others provide that magical view into another world (because how many of us have actually seen the hidden world of animals under the snow or experienced the immense pressure and heat at the center of the Earth?!).

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Read With Me : Tao Te Ching

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Better pick up a book and Read With Me because these posts are not slowing down. I had just finished Mark Manson’s, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, and started reading You Are A Badass, but felt the need to pick up something else, something older, something a bit more philosophical and that’s when I found Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching in a thrift store.

I have been interested in Taoism ever since I read The Tao of Pooh last year. That was my first introduction and I must say, I’m happy I read that before the tougher to decipher Tao Te Ching. I actually just finished The Tao of Pooh again in January and it was even quicker and easier to consume than I remembered. I highly recommend picking it up if you are feeling in a rut or if your life seems like it’s not panning out the way it should.

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Grateful For What Isn’t

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Being grateful for what isn’t is a simple mindfulness exercise I created to cultivate gratitude even in the shittiest situations. Sometimes it feels absolutely impossible to be grateful and that’s okay! I totally get it. That’s why, during those instances I choose to be grateful for what isn’t. Here is why it is important to be grateful for what isn’t:

  • How we focus our attention and how we intentionally direct the flow of energy and information through our neural circuits can directly alter the brain’s activity and its structure.
  • Even fleeting thoughts and feelings can leave lasting marks on your brain. Think of wax dripping down the side of a candle, each drip follows the path of the last one making the trails thicker and longer.
  • Each thought makes an impact, shift the flow of energy and emotion to create new pathways. If you’re continuing to feed into the negative you’re deepening those trails. If you’re shifting the thought process you’re working on building new pathways, new trails, new thought patterns.
  • We are building mindfulness by noticing the negative narration in our heads. We are giving ourselves the power to try to change the voiceover every single day.
  • Each time you decide to be Grateful For What Isn’t, you are shifting your brain’s ability to see situations as neutral or positive instead of negative.
  • Without going into too much neuroscience, neurons that fire together, wire together. Meaning by increasing the excitability of active neurons, you are strengthening existing synapses (connections) and building new ones while also weakening past neural networks that don’t serve you, i.e. constantly looking for negative outcomes. (Buy this book if you want to know more) – or shoot me an email and I’ll chat with you about the neuroscience I’m referencing for the basis of these exercises.

You probably get the hang of it, but here’s how to be grateful for what isn’t: You find yourself in a crappy situation.You can’t find anything to be grateful for so you decide to be grateful for what isn’t.

Example: Your flight is delayed by ten hours. Here are a list of grateful for what isn’t possibilities:

  • I am grateful I’m not traveling with kids.
  • I am grateful I don’t have health aliments to complicate things.
  • I am grateful I don’t have to catch another connecting flight at my next stop.
  • I am grateful my plane is delayed to be repaired instead of flying in disrepair.

If you’d like to take a listen, here’s a link to the meditation ‘Grateful for what isn’t. By adopting this mental exercise, we’ll begin to transform our mind. We’ll shift from seeing things as negative to neutral. We’ll flex those brain muscles intentionally until one day they take the initiative and start flexin’ for good on their own.

 

Read with Us : Women’s Day Edition

Happy International Women’s Day!

If you’re a lady or wanna be a lady, I hope you’re doing something good for yourself today. If you appreciate the women in your life, I hope you’ll let them know. And no, not by whistling as they walk by (unless they like that?).

We thought we’d take this day as an opportunity to highlight some of the women-related books that we love.

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