Read With Me : The Beast in the Garden

This post was originally published in March of 2019, we’re re-sharing it today because it’s Amazon Prime Day, and you need a good thriller for the beach.

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In 2018,  we started a series called ‘Read With Me’ where we are sharing all most of what we’ve read each month in hopes you’ll follow suit and dust off that book you’ve been meaning to devour! Here are all the previous Read With Me posts.

I know, these book posts are usually Sarah’s domain, and she does a mighty good job of it. But as I mentioned in my 2019 resolution post, I did a bit of reading last year; I just wasn’t that good at sharing those books. I’m hoping to turn that around this year.

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So, what’s my tally? books read: 2, books shared: about to be 1!

The Beast in the Garden

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Daily Dose of Exercise

Katie mentioned in our Welcome May post that we have an exercise initiative this month. We are challenging ourselves to a bit of exercise every single day. Remember when we were encouraging you to Get Outside? Well, it’s as easy as that. We’re not running marathons or working on a squat max, we’re simply trying to sweat a little bit each day of May and beyond. I made a simple goal in my phone for the month: be too busy for Facebook and sweat enough each day that a shower is necessary.

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Exercising is as simple as leaving your house and going for a walk. Start easy, start free.

You don’t need an intense workout plan and a protein smoothie to consider your activity exercise. Ease into this goal if you’re new to exercising on the regular. Make it enjoyable so that you stick with it.

  • Step out into your backyard or onto your city block and start walking. There you go, today’s exercise goal is started. Now keep going!
  • Pick activities that are free. You don’t need to pay for a walk. Shooting hoops doesn’t cost a dime. Dropping down in a plank while your kid is playing on the playground is free and potentially inspiring to other moms and dads.
  • Get to know your neighborhood. Where are there hidden opportunities for exercise? Maybe there are monkey bars at a nearby playground or a trail that needs to be hiked. Maybe it’s finally time to check out that rock climbing gym or the local yoga studio.

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Start a Gratitude Journal

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Gratitude improves our existence. There is no argument there. Gratitude helps us sleep better at night, cope during difficult times, and leads to better overall health. Practicing gratitude and writing in a gratitude journal each day is one way to ensure we reap the benefits of gratitude. If you already have a gratitude habit, adding a writing element will fit seamlessly into your routine. If you aren’t in the habit of expressing gratitude, let’s learn how to do so through journaling and what better time to begin than Thanksgiving, a holiday built upon gratitude. We’ll cover techniques that will both fit into the busiest of schedules and those with a little more time to devote to gratitude journaling.

Journaling our gratitude is another way to solidify the gratitude habit loop we are trying to employ. Remember, a habit has three parts: the cue, the routine, and the reward. The cue for gratitude journaling should be something that happens every single day. Maybe you always wake up and drink a cup of coffee. You could use the coffee brewing aroma as your cue to open your gratitude journal and begin your day’s entry. The routine is the act of your journaling, which we will talk about a bit more, and the reward can be enjoying a freshly brewed cup of coffee or the feeling that washes over you after you internalize what it means to be grateful, even for the little things in this life. So long as you clearly define your cue, remember to employ your routine, and follow up with a reward, eventually your habit loop will begin to emerge on its own.

Let’s circle back to our routine: journaling. Journaling doesn’t imply that you need to sit down with a pen and a notebook every night and scrawl for hours, unloading everything that happened in your mind and in reality that day. There are many ways to journal and certainly a technique that can work for everyone, even the busiest among us. If you aren’t keen on the idea of journaling or you don’t think you have enough time, start by bullet journaling. Simply jot down a few bullet points of gratitude each day. It’s as simple as that. If you’re really pressed for time you could write down three words, that’s it, just three words! That alone would constitute as a gratitude journal and a gratitude habit so long as you are consistent and add an entry each day.

If you are intrigued by the idea of a gratitude journal and would like to make it an enjoyable piece of each day, you can choose a pretty journal, pick out a cozy seat, and set the mood for journaling. Light a candle, pour a glass of wine or brew a cup of tea. Play a favorite song. Even if you only plan to write a few sentences about each grateful moment of your day, setting the vibe for your routine acts as part of the cue. Soon enough, you will look forward to the moment in your day when you put on your slippers, curl up on the couch, and pull out your journal. It’s more than just the act of writing, it’s about the mood it evokes. In this case, setting the vibe of your journaling session is also partly acting as a reward.

When you consciously choose to craft special moments in your day, you will soon begin to crave those cues and then act on them. You will look forward to the reward of feeling grateful and blessed in your life. Starting a gratitude journal doesn’t have to take time out of your day if you don’t want it to. It can be as simple as a note in your phone where you type out a few points of gratitude each day. It can also be a new part of your daily routine that does take time, time for you to enjoy the present moment and soak in the goodness of your day. The choice is yours, but either way, you will be improving your overall existence by solidifying a gratitude habit.

Sarah’s Favorite Wilderness Reads

Happy Earth Day! I just returned from eight days in the Himalayas with no wifi and it was absolutely wonderful. During that time I spent hours each day reading. If you find yourself out in the woods or simply wanting to dream about them, here are a few of my favorite wilderness reads. I linked to the paperback versions, so pull out your headlamp and start flippin’ pages.

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Mycophilia: Revalations from the Weird World of Mushrooms – This is the type of book where you read a few pages and then run into the next room to tell someone else all the cool things you just learned. Mycophilia is a beautifully written first person narrative of the fungi world. Author Eugenia Bone meets masters of the mushroom sphere as she discovers and researches all type of uses from scientific to culinary. If you have any interest in mushrooms, I highly recommend this informative read.

John Muir – any of his essays or journals – I actually recommend Muir’s writings as a way to fall asleep and here I’m recommending it as inspiration for your own nature journals and writings. Reading about Muir’s adventures will have you sitting in your cozy camp chair in admiration as he details his romps in the wilderness with nothing more than a heel of bread and an army blanket.

Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail – Made famous because of the movie, Wild, is a first person account of hiking the Pacific Crest Trail completely unprepared. These types of accounts encourage me to just do it. Stop the research and prep, go for it and see what happens. I enjoyed both the movie and the book – in that order too.

A Walk in the Woods: Rediscovering America on the Appalachian Trail – Bill Bryson’s account of the Appaliachian trail blends his witty walk in the woods with the history of the wilderness and suggestions for how we can conserve our wild lands. As someone who is itching to walk the AT, I love reading about others’ experiences with the trail.

Into the Wild – You probably know the story, but have you read the book? Into the Wild is one of those stories that has always stayed with me because I see so many similarities between myself and the main character, Chris McCandless. I also noticed the public’s split opinion, some feeling bad for Chris, while other’s did not and were almost angry with him because he was in the wilderness messing around. I find it interesting that any of us, even the most prepared, think that we’re capable of mastering mother nature. He did the best he could. RIP Chris.

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance: An Inquiry into Values – This book. I need to come clean here.. by the time I finished this book, I absolutely hated it. I was treking at high altitude and ripping out pages and burning them when I was finished. I was so over it. Cut to today and I’ve realized many, many times that Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance has had an enormous impact on how I view quality (a term that pops up at least 3,000 times in this book) and work. Believe it or not, I just ordered it again so I can read it with appreciation this time.

That’s that! My very favorite books to read outdoors. A perfect mix of inspiration and admiration lie within these pages. Don’t have any camping plans coming up? No problem, I’m in the habbit of turning off all my lights, opening the windows (to let the sounds of insects in) and reading by headlamp. At my little hut here in Chapel Hill, I feel like I’m in a tent in the middle of the woods 🙂

 

 

 

Retreat With Me in North Carolina

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Hi friends! I’m hosting a retreat in the blue ridge mountains on June 21 – 23 and I want to invite you to come along. The retreat is mainly focused on enjoying nature and decompressing from life’s stressors. No crazy hand stands or hour-long meditation sessions included, simply relaxing and reconnecting with yourself among the trees. Learn how to adopt small changes throughout your day to attend to each moment with new love and appreciation.

I’ll guide a few meditations, and introduce you to breathing techniques. These are mindfulness tools you can take home to create a deeper connection with your true self. We’ll also work on soaking in the present moment. Allow yourself to disconnect and focus on the now. Leave your phone turned off, gather around the fire, and just be. Make new friends or dive into a good book or craft. Enjoy ample free time in the forest. This is what a weekend in the blue mountains is all about.

We’ll be preparing meals as a group, but obviously, no pressure if you don’t feel like cutting or cooking. By making meals from fresh ingredients as a group, we can discover new ways to enrich our diet, improve our everyday wellness, and adopt a loving relationship with whole foods.

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The schedule is a little something like this:

DAY 1 – FRIDAY JUNE 21

Arrive & settle in. Self-guided grounds wandering. Welcome dinner and sunset gazing. Fire circle and marshmallow roasting. Evening guided meditation under the stars.

DAY 2 – SATURDAY JUNE 22

Meditation and pranayama (breath work) on the deck. Big delicious breakfast. Rest time. Guided hiking to a nearby waterfall & outdoor exploration followed by a picnic lunch on the deck. More rest time. Dinner and discussion. Stargazing + Yoga Nidra meditation. Fireside hangs.

DAY 3 – SUNDAY JUNE 23

Tea + coffee ritual crafting. Meditation and pranayama. Big brunch followed by outdoor exploration and closing circle. Check out early afternoon.

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So what do you say? Ready for a weekend in nature? Looking forward to relaxing while also moving about in the woods? Enjoy a guided day hike, a dip in the river, fire circles, star gazing, and sunshine lazing. Experience the positive and lasting effects of nature on your being. Retreat with me!

Find all the info about what is included and how to sign up right here.

 

FriendRaising: How to Meet Mindful Friends

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Last month, we had a bit of a friend-raising theme going. Katie shared how she started a Facebook group geared toward getting kids outside. She also did a feature on the freakin’ awesome cookbook club she is a part of. I was fortunate enough to attend two of those events and I can only aspire to be a part of that community. I also gave you the 411 on starting your very own Meetup group. Today I’m back with a post that’s maaaybe a couple of weeks late if I wanted it to fit into that monthly theme, but WTF how is it April already?

As someone who has moved to a new city a few times since graduating from college, I know that making friends as an adult is super hard. Like really tough. There’s no longer access to a pool of people with similar interests like when we were on sports teams or going to school. I feel like adults usually meet friends at work or through a partner or the parents of your kids’ friends, but guess what? I had none of that! I’ve been self-employed since college, kidless, and long-distance dating. That being said, I’ve had to make friends on my own time and I’ve been so fortunate to meet awesome people, but it all came with some legwork.

I geared this post towards meeting friends of a certain type, because a while back one of my girlfriends asked me how she could meet more people like me. More people that were chill AF instead of anxious and stressed. More friends that had a mindfulness tilt. Know that you can take the advice below and alter it to whatever activity you are into. Each time you see the word mindful simply change it to the activity or trait you’re looking for whether it’s mountain biking, oil painting, or marathon running, this post should help you make more friends 🙂 Good luck!

 

Ways to Meet Mindful Friends:

  • Join a Meetup group that focuses on meditation
  • Go to a yoga class
  • Seek out events that mindful people would attend
  • Find a yoga or meditation festival near you
  • Look for online forums conversing meditation and mindfulness
  • Attend a mindfulness book reading or author signing

 

Join a Meetup group that focuses on meditation – There are dozens of groups in every major city that focus on meditation and mindfulness. Even if you are from a small town, with a quick google search, you can find a group that meets weekly or monthly. Join the group. Attend the meetings and begin to network. Once you feel comfortable in the group setting, you’ll start to make connections with other mindful people. If you sense a friendship blossoming, don’t be afraid to ask that person out on a friend date without the meditation group.

 

Go to a yoga class – Yoga and mindfulness go hand in hand. While a yoga class in itself is a solitary act, before and after class is a great time to connect. Arrive to class early and insert yourself into the group chatter. You never know, your new best bud may be in attendance. If you are not comfortable at one yoga studio, don’t let that deter you. There are many kinds of yoga and yoga studios, and there is indeed one that is right for you.

 

Seek out events that mindful people would attend – Mindfulness and meditation is probably not your only interest, and this is true for your future friend. Start perusing your town’s monthly calendar and highlight a few events that interest you. Look for activities focused on cultivating awareness whether it’s for the earth, the community itself, or a particular hobby. Community events draw a wonderful mix of people with similar interests and are a great first step in making new friends.

 

Find a yoga or meditation festival or retreat near you – Festivals are a great sphere to make friends. Many in attendance look forward to the event for months and are amped to smile and chat with new people. Sign up as an attendee or even a volunteer. While at the festival, try to seek out opportunities to interact in smaller groups as well. Maybe there is a workshop or class you can attend. These smaller groups give people the chance to connect on a deeper level. If you really want to make friends, attend a retreat. These small groups encourage attendees to really connect and many people stay in contact long after the retreat is over. I’m hosting a retreat in June in North Carolina if you are serious about this friend-finding mission!

 

Look for online forums conversing meditation and mindfulness – It seems we spend a lot of time connecting online these days. While we don’t want your mindfulness friendship to exist solely online, this is an excellent place to start. Google, Reddit, and Meetup act as good search engines and starter forums to find events and people to connect with who have a common interest.

 

Attend a mindfulness book reading or author signing – Keep your eye out for book readings and author signings near you. Pay specific attention to books that deal with mindfulness and meditation. Arrive early and don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with other attendees. If you have a chance to chat with the author afterward or during the Q&A session, go ahead and ask where he or she has met mindfulness friends in the past. This could open a door for you with other attendees who are also looking for a mindful community.

 

You may feel alone sometimes, but we all do. Know that other mindful folks are looking for a friend too. Start your friend-finding journey by attending mindfulness events and inserting yourself into spaces where you know meditative people will be hanging out. 

 

Friendraising – Start a Cookbook Club

Since the start of the year, we’ve been focusing on monthly initiatives. A theme that sets the stage for some of the posts we’ll be sharing throughout the month. In January, we focused on good habits. During February we kept those good habits going with a particular focus on taking care of our mental health. This month, we mentioned in the Monthly Welcome that we want to put the focus on relationships, and in particular, to something called “friendraising” like fundraising, but with friends, ya dig it?

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A Little Intro

The communities we love to insert ourselves into are usually built around shared interests: cooking, hiking, parents, etc. Normally we find out about these groups through friends, community calendars, our city’s free weekly paper, or the internet, and sometimes we start our own groups.

Sarah began this series by discussing how and why to start a meetup group, and I followed up with a discussion about starting a Facebook group. While those ideas may sound like on in the same, they actually served different purposes. Sarah’s group was used to primarily promote events that she was hosting, while my group was a forum for sharing events hosted by other area groups… and in those posts we explain why one forum may be better than the other for certain purposes.

Today I’m talking about a special kind of book club : a cookbook club! I’ve taken part in a cookbook club for a few years now, and it’s been a really great experience. Here’s what we do…

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What’s a Cookbook Club?

A cookbook club is a potluck gathering where everyone attending prepares recipes from the same cookbook.

Our group meets approximately every two months. We rotate hosting duties. The host gets to pick the book and provides drinks. Sometimes the drinks compliment the book’s cuisine, other times it’s just wine and sparkling water.

Our group has a no-kids policy (little babies are obviously allowed). This makes for a more relaxing potluck, where you can enjoy the food and have a bit of conversation. About once/year there’s been a family-friendly event, but in general, it’s adults only.

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Why Start a Cookbook Club?

This article was the inspiration for our club, and really I couldn’t sum it up any better than that. Cookbook clubs bring a group of friends to share a delicious meal. From one potluck to the next, you get to go on whichever culinary adventure you want, from Thai to Italian to Middle Eastern to dishes from the American South. The potluck is the celebration of this communal experience.

Our potlucks start by everyone introducing themselves and the dish they brought. If you’re not careful, these introductions can drag out as guests go off on funny or painful tangents about what it took to put their dish together. Oftentimes, it’s no trouble at all, but other times there can be the adventure of finding the right ingredients or the tale of how a dish had to be made and re-made to get it just right.

After introductions, plates are passed, food is served, and everyone relaxes into conversation and a good meal. And really, every time, the meals are delicious!

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What Hosting Entails

If you’re thinking about starting a cookbook club, it’s likely that you’ll also offer to be the first to host. Pick a time, date, and book.

Send out invites to your friends, and encourage them to invite others that may be interested. We’ve found 8-12 guests to be a great number, but you may have to work up to that as you slowly get the word out, don’t be deterred.

On the day of, there’s the usual straightening up of the house. Then do a few things to prepare for hosting a potluck. Prepare your table for the food, including trivets for hot dishes. Put out a pile of plates,silverware, napkins, and extra serving utensils. Prepare a drink station with the beverages, ice, and glasses. Put out hotpads and make your oven and stove available for any guests that may have to keep a dish warm. Make it easy for guests to help themselves so that you can focus on welcoming everyone and taking care of any last minute details.

As the guests arrive, start serving drinks. Once all of the dishes are on the table, start the introductions. Start with a short welcome, introduce yourself and your dish, and then go around the table having each guest do the same.

After introductions, let the guests help themselves to the food.

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Planning Subsequent Events

When the group I’m in started, it was small enough that all communication could be done by email. But after a while, that got a bit cumbersome, especially if a conversation got started and you were 20 emails behind. Eventually we moved to Google Groups, but for one reason or another, that was also hard for some members to navigate. Now we use a private Facebook group for communication.

Facebook works well for our purposes. We can use the poll option to pick dates, and sometimes hosts have used polls to help decide which cookbook to use. Once you have a date, it’s easy to create an “event” within the group where you can put pertinent details for that particular potluck.

To keep track of who is bringing which dish from the book, we use a Google spreadsheet, and keep it “pinned” to the top of the Facebook group’s feed. In that document, we have a different sheet for each potluck. Anyone attending includes their name, the dish they plan on making, and what category of food it is (main, side, dessert, vegetarian, etc.). This helps the host with knowing how many people to expect, and makes it easy for all guests to help round-out the variety of dishes. We’ve never had a problem with having an unbalanced meal; usually there’s a nice ratio of mains to sides plus a few desserts.

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Cookbook Suggestions

Sometimes the hardest aspect of this club is picking out the next book! I like to follow a few food-related blogs in an effort to keep on top of what’s coming out when looking for new releases.

When picking a book, be aware that not everyone in the club may want to buy it. It’s nice if the book is available in your local library or if enough members have the book so that you can pass it around before the event. Another thing we sometimes do is pick a book by a food writer who also has a blog, then allow people in the group to choose recipes from the book or the blog.

Below are a few suggestions for books, and I include a note when the author also has a blog. If you have any books that you would add to our list, please let me know!

*The photos throughout this post came from my Farm Share series, where you can find loads of meal inspiration!

Color Your Memories with Positivity

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You are what you eat, which is why you would pick up a firm, crisp apple, but a bruised, rotted one, no way. Translate that to thought. Why do we continue to consume negative, fearful, anxious thoughts, when positive, uplifting, and gracious ones also exist?

It’s not entirely your fault. Our brains have a natural bias to shade our implicit memories in a negative light even though for the most part our experiences are actually positive. You can think of implicit memories like the residue of past experiences. Implicit memories remain primarily below the surface of awareness yet they shape the inner atmosphere of the mind. Our brain is actually trying to protect us by constantly scanning, registering, storing, recalling, and reacting to unpleasantness, but because of this we unknowingly internalize those memories instead of the positive, carefree, and overall safe experiences that we also have each day.

How do you color your memories with positivity? Your brain is acting as it always has, therefore to interrupt its daily exercise, you need to be mindful of internalizing positive explicit memories, memories that are entirely conscious recollections of specific events. These are the memories you have a bit of control over. To actively shape the brain, you need to solidify these positive experiences, by seeking them out, savoring them, and allowing them to sink in.

Look for the good news that surrounds you, find the joy in each moment, allow yourself to see the bright side of a dark day. We sometimes struggle with this physical exercise, so allow yourself to acknowledge how tough it may be to find the positive. It’s okay if it’s a struggle but persist. You are actively changing your neural structure. Pain today breeds more pain for tomorrow, the converse is also true.

Once you find the positive, focus on it for at least ten seconds. Allow it to sink in. Feel the residual sparks of happiness coursing through your physical body. Really allow yourself to feel content. Try to locate and identify that feeling and sensation in your body. The longer something is held in your awareness, the more emotionally stimulating it is, the more neurons will be firing, and the stronger the trace (implicit) memory will be. Focusing on this momentary contentment increases dopamine release, which encourages your mind to stay focused on this experience allowing for more positive neural associations in your implicit memories.

Now that you have a handle on internalizing positive experiences, you can use them to balance out your negative ones. When experiences are lumped together in your memory, they take with them whatever else is in awareness or on your mind, especially if dealing with intense emotion. This means you can actively infuse positive material with negative material in order to cultivate a neutral or positive implicit bias in your mind. Think about the comforting feeling of being nurtured by a friend when you’re experiencing profound loss. You friend isn’t taking away the pain, but their soothing presence helps to balance out the grief you are experiencing. Now you will see how to use your positive memories to soothe your negative ones.

Basically, you want to intently focus on a positive experience while the painful experience is sensed dimly in the background. When negative material rises, bring to mind emotions and perspectives that work as its antidote. Whenever you have a positive experience, allow it to sink in, soothe, and replace old pains.

Maybe you had a really fantastic dinner with your parents. Allow yourself to be fully immersed in the experience. Listen to the conversation, inhale deeply and smell the fresh flowers in the center of the table, close your eyes and really taste your meal, allow yourself to preserve the positive emotions you are feeling. After dinner, recall a negative memory of a family dinner, while still allowing yourself to feel the warmth, happiness, and contentment from the positive experience. Allow your positive memory to begin to flush out the negative memory.

When your brain recalls a memory, it draws on key features, not specific events, it fills in details with simulation, and it does it so quickly that you don’t even notice it. This rebuilding process is what gives you the opportunity to color your memories with positivity. When a memory is activated, a large-scale assembly of neurons and synapse unfold into a pattern. If other things are also being held in your mind, in this case, positive memories, your amygdala, and hippocampus (regulators of emotions and memory) will automatically associate them with the neural array and when you stop recalling the memory, it will be lumped in with those other associations, in this case, the positive family dinner.

Coloring memories with positivity takes time and effort. Repetition is required. Be mindful of the deep roots of reoccurring pain and upset within you. Try to identify the tip of these roots, maybe planted during childhood or a particular relationship or traumatic event. Deliberately propel your positive experiences towards these roots to displace them. Fill that space with positive emotion. Know that this exercise can also work in the opposite direction so if you find yourself dwelling on negative feelings, you may not be ready for this exercise.

Each time you work on taking in the good or positive, you flex your brain muscles. You build up a little bit of neural structure and encourage your brain to continue seeking out contentment. Coloring your memories with positivity a few times each day for months will turn into years, and will gradually change your mind and the way it operates, therefore affecting how you feel and act, in far reaching ways.

Taking in the good is good. You are building up positive emotions that will benefit your overall physical and mental health. The point is not to ignore painful experiences or grasp after positive ones but to internalize the good and work on accepting the difficult while comforting yourself with soothing thoughts and feelings. Not only will you shift the way your brain works, but you will also be a grounding and positive force for those around you. Anxious and overwhelmed people will seek refuge near you as you’ll be a source for comfort instead of added anxiety.

FriendRaising – Start a Facebook Group

Since the start of the year, we’ve been focusing on monthly initiatives. A theme that sets the stage for some of the posts we’ll be sharing throughout the month. In January, we focused on good habits. During February we kept those good habits going with a particular focus on taking care of our mental health. This month, we mentioned in the Monthly Welcome that we want to put the focus on relationships, and in particular, to something called “friendraising” like fundraising, but with friends, ya dig it?
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The communities we love to insert ourselves into are usually built around shared interests: cooking, hiking, parents, etc. Normally we find out about these groups through friends, community calendars, our city’s free weekly paper, or the internet, and sometimes we start our own groups.

Sarah started this series by discussing how and why to start a meetup group and do a little friendraising for yourself. Today’s post is very similar in nature. I want to talk about starting a Facebook group. BUT as you’ll see, my group is NOT about hosting events…

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